Motherhood is amazing—you literally gave life to a tiny version of yourself—but it doesn’t always feel like it is. You know those moms who look like they live perfect lives? Real talk: They don’t. No one is spared from the ups and downs of being a mom—you just learn how to gracefully deal with it. Want in on our fixes? Hint: They’re not as complicated as you think. Here are some Hot Mama tips on how to be a hot mama.

How to be a Hot Mama Tip #1: Ask for help.

Moms have a tendency to take on everything by themselves. Doing anything less makes you feel like you aren’t good enough, but—and this may be a rude awakening for some—you’re a mother, not a martyr. You’re allowed to ask for help from your husband, your parents, your in-laws, your house help, and your child’s willing army of titos and titas. And when you do, you’ll find that they are all more than willing to lend a hand. After all, this crazy-beautiful journey wasn’t meant to be solo trip.

How to be a Hot Mama Tip #2: Invest in a great bed.

It’s the spot you’ll be spending so much of your time in, whether it’s to breastfeed your newborn or to squeeze in a quick nap at the same time as your kids. Wouldn’t you want it to be as comfortable as possible? Plus, when your bed feels a little more luxurious than usual, it also encourages you and your hubby to clock in time for each other, too. You know what we mean.

How to be a Hot Mama Tip #3: Capture milestones.

Write down significant moments in a notebook—your kids’, yours, and your family’s. Take a lot of photos. If there’s one thing every single mom will agree on, it’s that no matter how mad things get, your children still grow up too fast. Looking back on your wins, no matter how big or small, provides you with a boost of happiness and confidence as a mom and it also gives you something nice to hold on to when you feel like everything is in chaos.

How to be a Hot Mama Tip #4: Get out of the house—alone.

It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. You can just go for a quick pedi or a fast workout, or do a grocery run, but it’s key to your sanity that you’re able to leave your home occasionally, by yourself, even just for an hour. It sounds like a little thing, but me-time is so important when it feels like everyone else has a share of your time.

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